I’ve talked to several people in the last few months that are in tough situations.  Problems with their finances, their children, their marriages, addictions, you name it.  What has shocked me in every instance is their lack of desperation.  They’re complaining, crying, and even asking for help…but they really don’t want to make a change.  So much so that I wonder if they’ve grown attached to their pain.  It has tagged along for so long that it’s become their pet.  They feed it, water it, and complain because it’s not house-trained yet, but they’ve come to see it as their…